Someone once told me if you really want to see a person’s true colors just wait until they are mad at you. I have to say this was the best advice they could give me. Have you ever noticed there are people who once they are mad at you become vindictive and malicious? Do you know someone who is vengeful when they are angry? Do you know someone who will tell all the secrets you told them in confidence once you are not friends anymore? Let me ask you this. Is this the type of person you want in your life? Is this the type of person you want to be?
We are tested and challenged not by how we handle the people who treat us right but how we handle the people who mistreat us. How we deal with them and these situations says a lot about us as individuals.
I have been challenged like this many times. Some situations in the past I haven’t dealt with the way I should. I haven’t been very proud of myself for this. But I am at a place in my life where I do my best to define myself better in a way that makes me truly happy with who I am. My mind does still wonder to some dark places sometimes. I just think to myself, who do I want to be. Do I want to be the type of person who loses myself and lowers myself to the same level as the people that hurt me? Do I want to be a person who rises above and moves forward? I want to be that strong person who moves on. My time is to precious and so am I.
I want to be person who will always keep my promises even when I am not friends with someone because keeping promises is important to me. I want to be a person who doesn’t seek revenge because I am to good of a person to wast my time on childish things. I don’t want to react to petty things because most the time people target people just to get a reaction. I won’t give them the satisfaction of a reaction since that is what they are trying to get from me. Let them do whatever. After a while, who they are will shine through to everyone who will see them for who they are without any help from me. After all my actions are defined by me and are about who I am. Not who they are.
This is not an easy thing to do. We have all had people who have wronged us in many ways. Friends have betrayed us. People have broken our hearts. Family has even tried to break many of us. Just remember how we handle ourselves in the face of hurt, anger, and betray is what sets us apart.
Don’t let your emotions cloud your judgment and turn you into someone you don’t want to be. You are better than that. Don’t settle on being a rock when you are a diamond ready to shine.
Its okay if you have already made mistakes on how to handle people. Just make a commitment from now on that you are going to do things differently and hold yourself accountable. If you have to journal your feelings as an outlet then do this. Then be the strong amazing person we both know you are.
Let go. Stop all communication. Move on. You can be the strong person without having them in your life so cut all ties. No one wants someone so vindictive in their life.
“An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.” – Unknown.